Getting Your Pink Back: Finding Yourself in Motherhood
Becoming a mom changes everything. Your sleep, your routines, your relationships and often, how you see yourself. For many moms, it can feel like pieces of who you were before got pushed to the side, and suddenly it’s hard to recognize that spark you once had.
That’s where the idea of “getting your pink back” comes in. It’s inspired by flamingos. After they have babies, they actually lose their bright pink color for a while. Their bodies are so busy giving and nurturing that they look faded. But slowly, as they regain balance, their beautiful color comes back.
Motherhood can feel the same way. You might feel a little faded at first, and that’s completely normal. But your “pink” is still there; it's about finding ways to reconnect with yourself in this new chapter.
Here are a few gentle ways to start getting your pink back:
Make space for self-care: It doesn’t have to be a full spa day. Sometimes it’s as simple as taking a shower without rushing, savoring your morning coffee, or stepping outside for a few deep breaths. Small moments matter.
Do something you used to love: Think about a hobby or activity that made you “feel like you” reading, baking, dancing, journaling. Even if it’s just for 10 minutes, reconnecting with those parts of yourself can feel like renewal.
Stay connected: Motherhood can feel isolating. Try reaching out to a friend, texting someone who “gets it,” or saying yes to support when it’s offered. Connection helps remind you that you’re not alone in this.
Practice boundaries: This can be tough, but learning to say no, asking for help, or even just giving yourself permission to rest is a huge part of protecting your energy. Boundaries help create space for your “pink” to return.
Therapy often weaves into this process by holding space for both acceptance acknowledging that you’ve changed and renewal finding ways to bring joy, energy, and identity back into your life.
Getting your pink back doesn’t mean going back to who you were before. It means embracing this new version of you, one that includes being a mom, but also remembers you are still a whole person, with your own spark, color, and light.
